What does a responsible man look like; sound like, smell like? Is he defined by his walk, or maybe in his talk? Can you find his meaning in the things he owns or in the amount of money he controls? Is his manhood carried by the blood in his veins, could it be found in the fullness of his mane, maybe; at the core of the things he claim? This thing we seek called “manhood” could just be as elusive as “he” is to find. His definition; un and mis-defined.

Mariah Carey Pregnant with husband Nick Cannon

For years we’ve heard the poetic descriptions of womanhood in Maya Angelo’s, “Phenomenal Woman; in scriptural references of the “Virtuous Woman,” of Proverbs 31 and in the teachings of T.D. Jakes’ “Women, Thou Art Loosed.” Deservingly so, there has been no shortest of messages that describes the virtue, gives honor and celebrates the beauty of womanhood. As a society we revel in the notion that women are recognized, respected and their value, reinforced. This is as it should be! Yet, we have so much more work to do, if we hope to strengthen families in its entirety.

In the end logic will defy our work, if we don’t find a way or the need to also honor, celebrate, support and educate men to be engaged in the responsibility of being productive men. As we proceed with this challenge there are four things we must keep in mind in this transformational work with men: 1) we must be conscience not to forget the men who have and do honor themselves, their families, communities, 2) not to dismiss men who have emotional desire, but not the financial means, 3) for the minority of men who perpetuate the negative stereotypes of men, we must find effective ways of continuing to do our work, knowing that some may take more time than others, to get it, and 4) we must include the voices of women in an effort not to make the same alienating family mistakes of the last 30 years.

Russell Simmons with nephew and brother

It is our desire and belief that we will find at the core of “responsibility” a place to begin our work. Ingrid Cliff; author of “Instant HR Polices and Procedures,” has this to say about responsibility; “there are three types of people – those whom nothing is ever their fault and it is always the fault of someone else, those for whom everything is their responsibility and those people who know their boundaries, own what is theirs and let the rest go. (Read More)

Watch Nick Cannon and Russell Simmons inspirational comments at the Year of Responsible Men Event:

One of the interesting comments by the songbird was she was superstitious and would speak about it when the timing is right.  Speculation about whether Mariah was superstitious about being pregnant over 40 splashed on gossip sites and individuals who wanted to know why she kept this a secret for so long.  However, whether she tells us or not, isn’t it her and Nick’s business? Mariah is 41 years old.  She joins the list of female celebrities such as Halle Berry, Iman, Nicole Kidman, Geena Davis and other celebrities who had babies in their 40′s .

Is she too old?  Is this none of our business?

Fox News’ Health Dr. Manny Alvarez discusses the subject of When Is Too Old To Have A Baby with health care professional, Dr. Abdul Alcon.  Check out the thought-provoking discussion.

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Laila Ali has announced that she is expecting her second child with husband Curtis Conway.

The former “Dancing With the Stars” contestant and “American Gladiator” host exclusively shares the news with People.com.

“I am pregnant again! I’m three months, and I’m so excited, my family is excited,” says a glowing Ali. “I’m hoping it’s a girl this time!”

Due in early April 2011, this will be the second child together for Ali, 32, and husband Curtis Conway, 39, who married in July 2007. Their first child, son Curtis Jr., is 2.

Laila says her father, boxing legend Muhammad Ali, is excited about becoming a grandfather again.

“My dad is an excellent grandfather,” she says. “He loves kids. He loves to kiss them to death.”

A 32 yr. old woman in Kentucky had a baby but says she didn’t know she was pregnant.  Kelly Bottom says she delivered her newborn son on the floor of her laundry room by herself, cut the umbilical cord, then she went and picked up her other son from school, stopped by the baby’s grandmother’s house to show off the baby then… went to the hospital.  The local newspapers reported that mother and baby were discharged from the hospital and are doing fine.

A new study shows that women might not need to hold off on eating and drinking while giving birth. Usually the rule at most hospitals is to hold off and any eating or drinking during labor but researchers say a new study, shows that such an approach to labor isn’t necessary. “There’s no evidence of benefit or harm from restricting fluid or food intake during labor,” said Dr. Kay Dickersin, director on the U.S. Cochrane Center in Baltimore. Researchers studied approximately 3,000 women who were at low risk of needing a Caesarean section and were given some food and fluids during labor.
Those restrictions on eating and drinking can be loosened, researchers said, because fewer women need an emergency C-section under general anesthesia, which can cause problems if there is anything in the stomach.
Doctors cautioned that these findings don’t mean that labor is a time for chowing down but, instead, for small amounts of food and drink.

I guess there went my “Big Mac combo.”