A new study says men like women to do all the housework and chores. A researcher claims men relax better if they can put their feet up and let their wives cook and clean.

This new study — from USC — is sure to ignite the ages-old war between the sexes…being waged since men did the hunting and women did the gathering. The study also revealed another shocker. Women want men to get off their lazy butts and help! Women’s stress levels go down when men help with the chores. Finally, there is a a scientific justification for women to get mad while their husbands watch football all day Sunday!

Ironically, the opposite is true with men. Their stress levels fall while they relax and their wives are busy! Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus…and they’re doing all the mopping and dusting, apparently!

The study found there was even a link between household activities and physiology. In particular, the way in which couples divvy up chores affects their bodies’ ability to deal with stress.

Lead author Darby Saxbe says, “Dividing up your housework fairly with your partner may be as important as eating your vegetables.” The study is published in the Journal of Family Psychology.

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Valentine’s day is a special day to show love… but we know that Jesus is love, and the love of God is the biggest love we could give or receive!!!! However, I took a pole on the air and on our Facebook page and here are the results of our top 5 gifts.

MEN

• Cologne
• dinner at restaurant
• nice relaxing evening
• electric razor
• dinner at home

other mentions:   superbowl tickets for next year, girlfriend to marry him, hat

WOMEN

• Jewelry
• chocolates
• spa treatment (mani, pedi… etc…)
• dinner at home (not cooked by her)
• live plants (flowers die)

source:  YOU

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Now, I like to give people the benefit of the doubt, and I know that not all men operate in the same manner as these “gentlemen,” because at the very least, I know a few individuals who are the exception. Nonetheless I was surprised by what the men described believed would pass for a decent approach.

The overarching problem seemed to be that the men didn’t respect the women for who they were; the men were too focused on what they could get instead of what they could give. They weren’t genuinely interested in the woman — who she was, what she wanted out of life, where she was going, what she was doing — they were focused on what was in her pants, what was in her blouse, and how they could use those things for their own pleasure.

You see, men, a woman will never respect you, if you don’t first respect her. Regardless of whether or not she treats herself with respect and dignity, you as a man, should respect her. Period. Wouldn’t you want men to respect your mother, your daughter, or your sister? She is someone’s mother, daughter, or sister. Respect her because you would want it done to yours.

You will never violate, or have a fling with, or one night stand with someone you respect. If you don’t respect them, well, you’ll do just about anything to them.

The problem lies in that we often don’t understand that we were not designed to jump from partner to partner like a game of hopscotch; we were created to partner and bond with one person for the rest of our lives (that’s where the whole “till death do us part” thing comes into play). Without a proper understanding of the type of relationships that we were made for, we’ll constantly be misplacing our efforts into relationships where there is no respect, mutual or otherwise.

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If I know that I could potentially be spending the rest of my life with you, how can I not respect you from the jump? The commitment demands I respect, not only you, but myself, and the relationship, and the potential which lies within it.

What I learned from the conversation was this: The foundation of any relationship should be friendship. And inherent with friendship, comes respect. You cannot be friends with someone and not respect them. It just doesn’t work.

[Written by Stuart McDonald for Elev8.com. For more from Stuart, check out his personal blog, follow him on Twitter, and connect with him on Facebook.]

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Peace College has announced their decision to admit men as full-time students beginning next year and change their name.

For more than a century Peace College has been a women’s only college but starting next year they have decided to allow men to enroll as full time students and to change their name to William Peace University.

William Peace was the founder who started the school with donations of  $10,000 and a plot of land.

Over 200 alumnae and family protested on campus Sunday about the decision to admit males.

What do you think about the change?

Four men, one calling: To serve and protect

The synopsis of the movie tells of law enforcement officers, Adam Mitchell, Nathan Hayes, and their partners are confident and focused. They willingly stand up to the worst the world can offer. Yet at the end of the day, they face a challenge that none of them are truly prepared to tackle: fatherhood.

While they consistently give their best on the job, good enough seems to be all they can muster as dads. But they’re quickly discovering that their standard is missing the mark. They know that God desires to turn the hearts of fathers to their children, but their children are beginning to drift further and further away from them. Will they be able to find a way to serve and protect those that are most dear to them?

When tragedy hits home, these men are left wrestling with their hopes, their fears, their faith, and their fathering. Can a new found urgency help these dads draw closer to God … and to their children?

Moviegoers will again find themselves crying, laughing, and cheering—sometimes simultaneously—as they are inspired by everyday heroes who long to be the kinds of dads that make a lifelong impact on their children.

Protecting the streets is second nature to these law enforcement officers. Raising their children? That will take courage.

Take a moment and think  about it….Courageous … honor begins at home.

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The question on a lot of women’s minds, whether white or black, is to be married or not to be married? But there’s a problem when black women shoulder the burden of the plight of the black community falling behind in education, but offering skyrocketing crime and more unwed mothers. There are crusaders on both sides of the debate that black women should marry, but the consensus appears to be that black women do not want to be held accountable for what they feel is a shortage of black men to marry. According to MSNBC, the statistics are as follows: “The black community’s 72 percent rate eclipses that of most other groups: 17 percent of Asians, 29 percent of whites, 53 percent of Hispanics and 66 percent of Native Americans were born to unwed mothers in 2008, the most recent year for which government figures are available. The rate for the overall U.S. population was 41 percent.” In addition to those numbers, the black professional woman is even more singled out, (no pun intended), with 70 percent of them being unmarried. Crusaders like Dr. Natalie Carroll, an ob/gyn in Houston that encourages her unwed patients to marry and Christelyn Karazin, who started out as a single mother, is married to a white man and has four children, her first when she was unwed. She has put together a movement supported by 100 writers and activists for the online movement No Wedding No Womb, which according to MSNBC, she calls “a very simplified reduction of a very complicated issue.” Her initiative has been widely criticized. Both women find it absolutely necessary and detrimental to the black community for black women to marry and offer their child a mother and a father. Amy Wax, is a white woman and law professor at the University of Pennsylvania, whose written the book “Race, Wrongs and Remedies: Group Justice in the 21st Century.” She too feels that black women should marry to save the community. She goes as far as to say: “Blacks as a group will never be equal while they have this situation going on, where the vast majority of children do not have fathers in the home married to their mother, involved in their lives, investing in them, investing in the next generation.” Now what do you say ladies? Let us know what YOU think!

Healthy eating is an important aspect of any eczema treatment.  It is known that certain common foods can trigger a flare-up of eczema. Examples are peanuts, nuts, eggs, milk, soy and wheat.  In fact, almost any food can trigger a reaction, which is why it is important to identify the culprits.

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There have been many arguments about whether food and healthy eating have any role to play in the cause of eczema and its treatment. A recent theory is that the underlying causes of eczema are food intolerances, nutritional deficiencies, poor digestion and imbalanced micro flora in the gut.  If this is the case, then it is important that the issue of healthy diet be addressed as part of eczema treatment.

Whilst we have discussed foods to avoid from your diet, it is important to know which foods should be included as part of a healthy eating plan.  Poor digestive function has been suggested as a possible cause, then it is important to look at foods that can improve the digestive system and overall health.

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Unrefined Carbohydrates such as brown rice, whole-meal bread, whole-wheat pasta, bran flakes, porridge oats, potatoes, and bananas are important to sustain energy and provide fiber. Fiber helps in the elimination process.

Fruits and Vegetables should be a large part of your healthy eating diet including plenty of green leafy vegetables. Fruit and vegetables are full of vitamins, minerals and anti-oxidants which are important for healthy skin and strengthening the immune system.  It may be worth thinking about buying organic produce to avoid potentially harmful insecticides and herbicides which could trigger eczema.

Protein in the diet is necessary for maintaining and repairing tissues and strengthening your immune system.  Good sources of protein can be found in meat, fish, eggs, soy, nuts, seeds, beans and dairy products.

Essential fatty acids (Omega 3 and 6 oils) have been found to improve eczema and other skin conditions. This is because they make hormone-like substances called prostaglandins which regulate inflammation and swelling as well as improving digestion and maintaining healthy skin.  Essential fatty acids can be found in oily fish such as mackerel, salmon, tuna and herring.  Other good sources are fresh seeds such as pumpkin and sunflower, flaxseed oil and walnuts.

Probiotics contain live bacteria which are thought to be healthy for the digestive system. Their use increases the number of friendly bacteria in the intestines and may reduce allergic reactions by improving digestion.  The overuse of antibiotics, exposure to pollution, poor diet and stress are some of the factors which can reduce the level of these beneficial bacteria. If you have poor gut micro flora, you may be prone to symptoms such as diarrhea, irritable bowel syndrome, yeast infections and constipation.  Several studies have found that probiotics are effective in the treatment of atopic dermatitis.  Many yogurt products have probiotics added to them and this could be a great way of taking them.  However, if you are allergic to milk products, you can take probiotics in supplement form.  Other foods that contain natural probiotics are fermented foods such as miso, tempeh and sauerkraut.

As you have probably noticed, some of the foods mentioned such as milk, eggs and wheat are potential triggers to a flare-up of eczema.  If these foods or others cause you problems, then it is important to avoid them and find an alternative.

To sum up, it is important to include healthy eating as part of your eczema treatment.  By changing your diet to include healthy foods such as fresh fruit, vegetables and foods rich in omega oils, you will find that healthy eating can be an effective eczema treatment.

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Evangelical practices mean more women attend church than men, writes David Murrow.

Do men hate going to church?

David Murrow says yes. “Christianity’s primary delivery system, the local church, is perfectly designed to reach women,” says Murrow, author of the book Why Men Hate Going to Church.

Noting that studies in the U.S. show that women make up 60 percent of a typical congregation, he asks: “What is it about modern Christianity that is driving men away?”

For him, the answer is simple: Churches today are designed for women.

“Christianity’s primary delivery system, the local church, is perfectly designed to reach women,” he says of the warm colours, robes, candles, flowers, sharing, tapestries, long sermons and soft, romantic worship music that are the hallmarks of many churches today.

“This church system offers little to stir the masculine heart, so men find it dull and irrelevant,” he states, adding that men who do go to church seem passive and bored.

Why is church not inviting for men? According to Murrow, it’s because men are drawn to risk, challenge and adventure. “But these things are discouraged in the local church,” he says. “Instead, most congregations offer a safe, nurturing community — an oasis of stability and predictability.”

At the same time, he maintains, the very definition of a good Christian has become feminized. Christians, he says, are supposed to be gentle, sensitive and nurturing, focused on home, family and hospitality. The godly are supposed to be calm, gentle, polite and sociable.

Murrow is aware that his observations might offend, particularly when you consider that the church is almost entirely led by males — and entirely by males, in the case of the Roman Catholic Church. All that means, he says, is that “the modern church is an army of women led by a few male generals.”

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If you’re a man, I’m sure you’ve thought about how complex women are. How they simply can’t be figured out. How they do the most bizarre things, for unknown reasons. (If you’re a woman, it’s likely you agree.) If you have, then you will find this next statement confusing and perplexing. Women are not as complicated as you think they are. They’re actually rather simple.

Before you brush me off as a lunatic, hear me out. The primary reason that men and women don’t understand one another is because they don’t take the time to truly try. Within that context, we have to understand that men’s and women’s brains simply process information differently. The exact same even could happen to a man and to a woman and you would likely have two entirely different responses. As such, we have to work to understand where the opposite sex is coming from.

In the next several posts (because this topic is simply too long for only one post), I’m specifically addressing the men out there who are in relationships — spouses, boyfriends, fiancees, etc. If you’re single and reading this, my hope is that you’d take note for the future. My goal here is to better help the men understand the women in their lives so they may more effectively care for them, love them, and grow into a deeper relationship with each other.

Before I start, let me give you a quick disclaimer: I will generalize most women in the following paragraphs. Yes, I understand that not all women want these things out of relationships, but it is more worthwhile to inform the gentlemen about the majority of women than the few for whom these things are not true. I’m not an expert with formal training of any sort — I’m simply an observer, and a learner. The following is what I have gleaned from my experiences and those of others, combined with the wisdom of professionals. (Once I finish this series, I will give you a few resources that will further your learning.)

Men, there are a few basic things that women want, and need, from their relationships with you, as their significant other. Without further ado, here is the first of three things women want:

She wants her feelings to be heard and understood, not solved.

Men, I understand that we naturally like to solve problems. It’s what we do. When your woman tells you about a problem at work, or a problem with her mother, you instantly begin creating solutions, don’t you? (I know you do because I do it too.) Well, stop. Or at least stop telling her what those solutions are unless she asks you to. She doesn’t really care about them. What means more is that you listened to her and understand how she’s feeling, not that you’ve fixed the problem.

You may be asking yourself, “Why does she tell me all this stuff if she doesn’t want me to solve anything? This is a waste of my time.” It’s simple — she wants you to understand her feelings. Her sharing and your understanding brings you together on an emotional level (which is most important to her). She wants to tell you because she cares about you.

Don’t get it twisted — our logical, problem solving skills can still be utilized. In fact, she enjoys seeing you solve puzzles and problems; they just have to be on issues that don’t involve her emotions. Like the car making a weird sound. If she tells you, “Baby, my car made some kind of strange rattling sound today as I was driving home from work,” don’t ask her how that made her feel. Just get the problem fixed. If the problem is emotional, you listen; if it’s not, get it fixed.

If you’ve ever talked to your woman at the end of the day (or, heck, at any point in any day), you know that she’s got a lot to say (if she doesn’t, that’s a bad sign). It’s likely that a good portion of what she has to say concerns her emotions and how she was feelings while said events are going on. Of course, if you asked us, we’d give a one word answer that would frustrate her. But no, she’s different — she always has a lot to say. And while it might seem that most of what she has to say isn’t important to you, but it is very important to her. That’s why she’s sharing it with you — because she finds it important. She simply wants you to understand her problems; her perspective. With that said, it’s important that you listen.

Let her talk about anything and everything she desires (that includes you) and — here’s the key — listen to her. Focus on her. Make eye contact with her. Make her feel like she is the most important thing in your world at that moment. Turn off all the other distractions and pay attention. You can’t pay attention to her while you’re watching TV or texting someone on your phone. I don’t care if you think you can, she doesn’t see it that way. she wants you to devote and focus your attention on her for these few minutes.

(If, for some reason, you can’t give her that undivided attention at that moment, but, she wants to talk, it’s a good idea to say something like, “Baby, I understand you’re upset and I do want to listen to you, but I need about five minutes. Then, I’m all ears, ok?” Telling her that shows that you are interested in what she has to say, while also showing her that she’s important enough to give her your undivided attention).

Written by Stuart McDonald for Elev8.com.

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